The medieval knightly system with its religious, moral and social code. When you look up the definition of “chivalry” this is what you will get it, but what does it really mean? Chivalry, a term created in the 1700’s, was presented as a code of ethics to all men, encouraging them to be true gentlemen. Women often wonder if chivalry is dead and wonder if they will ever find their Prince Charming. But not to worry, good things come to those who wait.

We live in a world where men and women don’t quite understand each other and where we are contemplating how to interact toward one another. The dating world is scary and at times may seem impossible, but don’t give up. Chivalry is still alive and out there.

Showing chivalry can go a long way and make someone feel special, allowing you to step out of the everyday routine. You don’t need to be the modern day Romeo, although you do need to set yourself apart from the rest. There are endless things you can do for your loved one or someone you’re just crushing on to make them feel their best.

Simple gestures like giving her your coat when it’s chilly, holding the door open and picking her up rather than making her drive can make a world of difference. Making moves like these can make a girl feel taken care of. Better yet, she will be thinking about you after the night is over.

Although some may still believe chivalry is non-existent, it truly depends on the individual and even how they were brought up. I will admit, as a female, we sometimes have high expectations that lead to more disappointment than happiness. These expectations typically come from today’s social media, chick flicks, romantic comedies, etc.

Today’s romantic comedies set high expectations for not only the men, but also women. They tend to show two people supposedly meant for each other, but something holds them back. Whether it is exes, job differences, etc., they eventually end up together. Along the way, the man or woman does unrealistic things to get the other to fall in love with them, such as buying them a house or spoiling them with diamonds.

As silly as this sounds, this truly makes our expectations grow. We began to wonder, “What if I found someone like that?” and then the imagination goes wild. Although romantic comedies are meant to be innocent means of entertainment, they can destroy relationships and make it harder to be content with yourself and your relationship.

Let it be known that chivalry still exists and that there are still plenty of well-mannered guys in the world. Not all guys are the same, and we need to realize that. I constantly see men holding open doors and grabbing the check at dinner. It’s the little things that truly count, so cut it out with the unrealistic expectations. Just live life one moment at a time and be pleasantly surprised.

Yet what we really need to realize is that life isn’t Hollywood. We don’t live on a film set. This is the real world and we are faced with problems that test our relationships, our abilities to keep moving forward and even our sanity. Just because your boyfriend isn’t able to take you to a dream resort over the weekend doesn’t mean he doesn’t care for you. Today’s times are hard, especially because of the economy. Although you dream of a lot, it’s better if you don’t expect it.

Simple gestures of chivalry should be enough to show he cares, even if he didn’t take out a loan to take you shopping that weekend. So, although we dream of big things and our imagination never stops running, you will find yourself more happy if you set those expectations a little lower. Certainly do not make them too low. A respectable, mature person who treats you right is always necessary.

Being a gentleman is one of the best qualities a guy can possess, as well as being a respectable lady is a vital quality for women. In order to receive respect, you must give it.